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The Wedding Ring

Wednesday, March 17th, 2010

One’s wedding ring is often a person’s most essential item of jewellery, because of the huge significance that it has for its wearer. It is intended to denote the love that exists between two people. In most countries, the wedding ring is worn on the fourth finger of the left hand - the ring finger, although in Norway, Germany and Russia, it is worn on the fourth finger of the right hand.

It is usually a good idea to have your finger measured by an expert, before buying an expensive ring, because fingers swell and shrink over the course of a lifetime and a good jeweller will know how much leeway to allow. If the change in the size of your finger is likely to be lasting, it is a good idea to have the ring resized, this is so that it will neither cut into you nor fall off your finger easily.

These days a lot of couples like to go shopping for wedding rings together, because they want to buy a pair of matching rings that both of them likes. However, it does not have to be like that. In fact it never was, because the man bought the ring for his girlfriend as a surprise. So, if you do not have the same tastes, do not worry about it.

There are hundreds of styles to pick from and several types and qualities of metal too. Yellow gold is still the most popular, but there is white gold and specialist golds too like Welsh gold, which is very rare. Besides gold, platinum and titanium are very popular too.

A fast emerging trend is for a couple to design or have designed a unique pair of wedding rings. At first, you would think that this would be very expensive, but it is not necessarily so. If you keep your design modest and the stones, if any, equally so, then the rings might only cost 10%-20% more than those off the shelf.

Gold is still the most popular metal for a wedding ring, but silver is starting to gain ground too, although it was always looked on as the poor cousin before. Likewise, diamonds are the still the number one stone of choice, but sapphires are also very popular nowadays. Or you could go for plain bands with something like a Celtic knot design.

Shopping for wedding rings can be fun, but it is easy to go over the top and spend much more than you intended to. You could determine how much you can afford and stick to it, not that that always works either. Expect to pay a lot more for the bride’s wedding ring than the groom’s. This is because the bride’s ring usually contains diamonds, whereas the groom’s is often a plain band of gold.

You could further personalize your wedding rings with a dedication and a date. Personalized, or unique wedding rings often get handed down through the generations. Maybe, yours will too. Or, if you want to wear your grandmother’s handed-down ring, you could personalize it in some way, so that it is both old and yet something of you as well.

Owen Jones, the writer of this piece, writes on many topics, but is currently involved with Celtic Knot rings. If you have an interest in wedding rings too, please go to our website now at White Gold Claddagh Ring

Are you a Divorced Dad? Dating for Single Dads is Easy!

Saturday, February 13th, 2010

Can a single Dad be a good father? Sure he can! But maybe a single man should also ask What’s your problem? Just because you’re not divorced, doesn’t mean that you’re a better father. It’s really such a pity that our society considers someone as a dead loss parent just because he’s no longer married. There are a lot of amazing single fathers out there and you can learn a lot from them.

Understanding it. You have got to realise that children suffer a great deal from the consequences of having only one parent. It could have from irate parents, from separation anxiety or any number of things: it’s a tough world out there for children whose parents are divorced, getting divorced, or who are just single.

Keeping up appearances for the children require sacrifice. Usually, both mother and father have to be able to set aside their differences long enough to inspect the damage that they have both done to their children. However, more often than not, parents get so engrossed with their emotional pain that they fail to notice that their children suffer even more than they do.

If you are a single parent this is very difficult. Dating for Dads and dating for mothers is the answer - don’t rush into things, but children need two parents and when you’re ready, you should get another partner.

Studies show that when two parents make a conscious effort to remain close to each other, then they have more successful and stable children. What more do you need to know? Children ought to have two parents. Never think that dating for single dads is out of the question. In fact, it is vital for the kids. You know that it is, don’t you?

Case Study: To make clear the importance of a father’s closeness to his children more obvious, it should be stated that the State University of Arizona conducted a study of college students who had only one parent. The researchers observed personality, emotional and mental maturity, health, and even interest in school and success. The researchers found evidence that supports the idea that whichever parent had primary custody, it is certain that children need access to adults of both sexes. Widow(er)s need to get back into society for the sake of their children and the,selves.

Findings: The results are quite surprising. Statistical evidence clearly shows that children whose parents are separated have healthier and more mature relationships than their parents and make a conscious effort of keeping the family together.

61% of the kids involved in the study asserted that their mum or whoever had primary custody, moved them at least an hours drive away from the other parent. One of the concerns expressed by the students was getting in the crossfire. When they stay with one parent, future financial help (like for college) lessened. Example, if they stayed with dad, mom gives less when college comes, and vice versa. In fact, the investigation showed that the 1 hour driving distance already had a negative effect on the children.

There will be emotional disturbance, it cannot really be prevented, but upon closer inspection of the children involved, it was clearly shown that those whose parents stayed close to them had a better emotional disposition and a better mentally too.

Results: so, in a nut-shell, the case study demonstrates that divorce does affect the kids. The way the parents treat each other and the distance they live apart does have a very significant impact that could tip the scales as to whether a child succeeds or not. It is difficult to make friends with an ex-wife after all that has transpired, but it will be even more difficult for you as a divorced or separated Dad, when you see your children suffer from the consequences of your decisions.

As a separated Dad, it is your responsibility, to yourself and your children to make the supreme sacrifice of making the first step of keeping close.

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Celtic Wedding Traditions

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010

Celtic wedding are an ideal way of showing your being a Celt. It is also a way of incorporating traditional values, symbols, themes and customs into major events in your life. However, Celtic wedding are hugely popular not only among people with a Celtic tradition, but among other couples who are taken by the ancient Celtic culture.

Celtic wedding have traditional symbolic decorations, often based on the Celtic knot. Welsh, Irish and Scottish families will sometimes marry in ancient buildings like castles or old manors, but that is not the norm. A traditional Celtic wedding is not greatly different from a normal British wedding in many ways.

However, the number of similarities between Celtic wedding ceremony traditions and normal British-style weddings goes a lot further than that. If you want a traditional British style wedding, you will be going unwittingly for a Celtic wedding. But you can beef up the Celtic element of the wedding ritual even further without sinking into silly theatrics.

This is a traditional Celtic poem about when to marry:

Marry when the year is new, Always loving, kind and true.

When February birds do mate, You may wed, nor dread your fate.

If you wed when March winds blow, Joy and sorrow both you’ll know.

Marry in April when you can, Joy for maiden and for man.

Marry in the month of May, You will surely rue the day.

Marry when June roses blow, Over land and sea you’ll go.

They who in July do wed, Must labour always for their bread.

Whoever wed in August be, Many a change are sure to see.

Marry in September’s shine, Your living will be rich and fine.

If in October you do marry, Love will come but riches tarry.

If you wed in bleak November, Only joy will come, remember.

When December’s showers fall fast, Marry and true love will last.

Here are a few other traditions:

Loving Cup: The traditional cup is a two-handled bowl with Celtic designs engraved onto it. The idea of the Loving Cup ceremony is for the bride and groom to share their first drink together as husband and wife and to demonstrate the coming together of their two families.

The Bell of Truce: A bell is blessed and then given to the bride and groom. The couple is required to ring the bell, while thinking loving thoughts of each other. The bell is then kept at home as a token of the wedding day. If an argument begins, the bell can be rung by either the husband or wife to call a truce. The tinkling sound is intended to remind the couple of their wedding vows and to help them relive happy memories from their wedding day.

Handfasting: Early Celts used to ?tie the knot?. It originates from a pre-Christian custom of literally tying a couple’s wrists together in a form of probationary marriage lasting a year and a day, at the end of which a new agreement was made or the couple parted ways.

Bride’s Bouquet: In Celtic wedding traditions brides carried herbs beneath their veils to symbolize fidelity, and spices to ward off evil spirits.

Ring finger: Ancient Celts thought that there was a vein in the third finger of the left hand that ran directly to the heart, so ring placed on that finger denoted a strong love and commitment to the other.

Wedding cake: A thin loaf was cracked over the bride’s head at the end of the service to symbolize fertility. The wheat from which it was made symbolized fertility and the guests readily picked up the pieces as good luck charms.

It was also common for the Celtic groom to toss a handful of coins into the crowd after the wedding, in the belief that this would bring them good fortune in the years ahead.

Owen Jones, the author of this article, writes on many subjects, but is currently involved with theCeltic Knot wedding ring. If you have an interest in wedding rings too, please go to our website now at White Gold Claddagh Ring

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Gold Wedding Rings

Friday, January 29th, 2010

The most frequently used element for wedding rings and engagement rings is gold. White gold is even more exclusive. Gold wedding rings look good whether the design is just a simple, plain band or an engraved band like a Celtic Knot. Gold rings can be given on other occasions too of course. Some people give their children a gold ring for their coming of age birthday.

Until not so long ago, it was customary for the man to give a gold ring when he asked for his girlfriend’s hand in marriage. However, nowadays it is more usual for the couple to go shopping for the engagement or wedding ring together. This makes good sense, even if it is less romantic, because the wearer can get the design that she likes.

Gold stands for purity in many cultures and that is one of the reasons why it is given to brides and brides to be. The symbolism is all but lost though in today’s consumer society in the West. For many people though it still symbolizes the hope that they will stay true to each other, until the day they die. It is a way of showing that the wearer has taken vows and intends to stick to them.

There is a huge variety of gold rings available. However, the variety lies not only in the design but also in the purity of the gold. Logically, the purer the gold, the more pricey it is. In the UK, most gold rings are either 9 or 18 carat. In the USA, most gold rings are 14 carat, but in Thailand, not many people would buy gold that is less than 18 carat and 22 carat is the norm for women. Pure gold is 24 carat, however pure gold is so malleable that you can mould it with your bare hands.

This might sound fine, but it is not. A 24 carat gold ring goes out of shape every few hours, just by you doing what you do every day and then it can pinch your skin. Opening a door can buckle the ring. This means that you can not set stones in pure gold, because they would soon fall out. Pure gold rings are best not even engraved because the design would soon rub off.

Therefore, the best place to begin, if you want a gold ring, is to think about what style you want. Do you want precious stones set into it? Then you should not really go above 18 carat. If you cannot afford 18 carat then 9 or 14 carat is for you. If you want something like a Celtic Knot ring, that is one with an engraved pattern, then anything up to 18 carat for you too, depending on your finances. If you want a pain band of gold, then a thick ring of 22 carat gold would be great, but not if you do a lot of labor-intensive work.

If you really want something special, why not have a gold ring made to your own design? It is not so expensive as you might think and you will end up with something unique, especially if you provide your own stone to be polished too. Such a gold ring would become a family heirloom and could stay in the family for centuries.

Owen Jones, the writer of this piece, writes on many topics, but is currently involved with theCeltic Knot wedding ring. If you have an interest in wedding rings too, please go to our website now at White Gold Claddagh Ring

Saving Money In The Sales

Wednesday, January 27th, 2010

Everyone loves to take advantage of the reduced prices during the holiday sales. In fact, the best day to go looking for special offers is the day after the actual holiday is over.

Black Friday is the day after Thanksgiving and it is the busiest shopping day of the year. You will get huge savings, but you will have to get up early, be ready to queue and jostle.

Another case in point is jewellery and St Valentine?s Day. Many men buy their wives or girlfriends jewellery during this period as a St Valentine?s Day gift. However, in the weeks after St Valentine?s Day, you can save a minimum of 30% on the very same pieces of jewellery that were being sold a week before. This is a clear sign that we are being ripped off on these holiday occasions and that we ought to wait until the actual holiday is over.

OK, it may not be so romantic to wait, but it must be better to be able to get 30% more gold for your money or to give the same present, but be able to go for a meal too. If I were a woman, I know which alternative I would take!

Or, instead of a nice silver or gold ring, you would be able to afford gold instead of silver or white gold instead of yellow. You could get a exquisite Celtic knot or a Claddagh ring instead of a plain band.

Beautiful Easter clothing is also pricey before Easter. However, why not buy the items you want after Easter and either make use of them next year or use them for parties, special occasions or church? You can save a lot of money in this way, just by using a little forward planning.

In order to help cut down on how much money you spend on Christmas presents, why not try buying them all year long as and when you find something appropriate in the sales? How many times have you seen something in a sale and said to yourself: ‘that would be the perfect gift for so-and-so’? It is better to take advantage of these chances and keep the items aside for when the right occasion comes up.

Then there are those post Christmas sales too. The Boxing Day sales are a great opportunity to pick up items that you can give as presents later in the year. And why not buy something for yourself too while you are at it? You can save a fortune on your favourite perfumes. Buy enough to last you the rest of the year!

You can make your funds go a lot further if you take advantage of the post holiday sales. Rely on serendipity. Buy opportunistically and you will not only save yourself a lot of money, but you will never be stuck for a present at the last minute either.

Owen Jones, the author of this article, writes on many topics, but is currently involved with theCeltic Knot wedding ring. If you have an interest in wedding rings too, please go to our website now at White Gold Claddagh Ring

International And Inter-racial Dating

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

This piece of writing is about my experiences of international and inter-racial dating. It is purely an account of what I have witnessed and experienced myself over the course of my life so far, although at 55 years old, I am nearer the end of it than the beginning. It is my advice on dealing with an international or inter-racial relationship.

It all began at an early age when I was in infant school at seven. There was a Filipina girl in our class and I could not take my eyes off her, although I almost certainly did not know much about it then. We parted at eight when they moved closer to another school and I never saw her again.

My next meeting with a foreign girl, was the mademoiselle junior teacher at school and I was convinced that I would marry a French country girl when I grew up. That passed when the German assistant arrived.

When I was fourteen, I went on a school cruise to Leningrad and there was a party of exchange students going home to Sweden on the same ship. I went out with one of them for about a week and first noticed the problems that can come from international dating. There was a minor language barrier, but it was fun getting over that. The real problem came, because I had preconceived ideas of what Swedish girls were like, probably instilled in me after years of silly ‘Carry On’ films.

At sixteen, I went to Germany to work for the summer and I found it very easy to get on with the German girls, although they were shyer that I was expecting too. Also an attitude I owed to silly Health and Efficiency ’sex films’.

After finishing university, I moved to The Netherlands to live. It was the seventies and Dutch girls were great. However, I made friends with male British colleagues first and soon saw some of the issues that can come from an international relationship. Most of the men I knew were typical Brits and made totally no attempt to learn Dutch at all. Surprisingly, many Dutch people could not speak English either, particularly the parents.

This lead to a surprising quantity of tense moments in a week and that put a lot of pressure on my friends’ relationships. It is so easy to start name-calling when you are angry and it is the worst thing you can do. The Dutch girlfriend or her parents or friends would be called ‘a stupid cheese eater’ or something equally daft and the relationship was over or in trouble for days. I do not recall what the Dutch called us.

I promised myself there and then never to get serious about a foreign girl because the arguments were just too much. Food was never a problem. Culture was not much of a problem, although where I was in southern Netherlands, most people were Catholic and I am not. This did perplex some parents but not me. Travelling was always going to be the drawback. Do you live by her parents or yours? In particular when children start arriving. Most countries have stronger family ties than Britain.

Then, at 50, having never been married, I went to Thailand, where I met my wife-to-be. Asian culture is very different from British or even European society and it is a real shock to both parties. Anyway, five years into our relationship and we are still fine. I recollect the reasons I gave myself for not marrying abroad when in The Netherlands and I was incorrect, but not much.

If you are going to enter into an international or even inter-racial relationship, you had better learn how to control your temper. It is the most important advice you will ever get. Being understanding of other points of view is important too, but not getting angry is more important. Furthermore, you must try to learn something about your partner’s land, background and language, otherwise you cannot join in any discussion your partner may have with someone who does know a bit about it.

I have never seen religion be a problem ever, except in an argument. My wife is Buddhist and I am not. We talk about it, but there is never any tension. Food, again I have never seen a problem in this field. Clothing, again no problem in my life. If you get into an international or inter-racial relationship, keep your temper, do not shout, do not get angry and talk things out calmly.

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Getting Back With Your Ex - 3 Attentive Steps To Getting Them Back

Saturday, December 19th, 2009

Has a difficult break up been in your recent past? There are many people that will shrink into the gloom and wait for death. Many folks decide to fall into the dimness and wait to die. They may be crippled for years to come from the agnst and hurt they feel. getting back your ex

Hopefully you will not be one of those persons that ends up broken and trampled. My only hope is to be able to let you be one of those that is able to get their ex back.

tip Number 1 That I wish to show you is being able to get your whits back about you. I don’t like to brag but I have been quite a heart breaker before I got married. There have been many men that have come after me with no thought or care of how nuts they look. I have gotten texts in the middle of the night saying that they had been driving by or some just show up at the door. This is NOT flattering at all. I feel more like they are stalking me. People acting like this makes me very uncomfortable even seeing them - let alone getting back together with this person!

Your ex thinking you are a crazy stalker - trust me! Things are not going to go well if you do this. You should give yourself some time to think. Get your head on straight. Not crazy stuff, okay?

advice Number 2 that I want to show you is goes a long with the one above since it is to stop contacting your ex. It is not because they are thinking you are crazy though. This tip has another thing in mind.

If you do not call or contact your ex constantly they will be thinking of you constantly. They will be wondering why you have moved on and are not calling them. They are not used to not having your attention.Yes, they will start to miss you.

If you give your ex enough time to think about you and miss you, it will be a lot more likely that you will be able to get back with your ex. Do not skip this step because our long term goal is to get your ex back. It is very important even though it might seem very difficult.

word of advice Number 3 that I want to show you is that you should always be a fun person to be around. Have you ever been around someone that just gives you joy and has fun? I’m sure that you will remember saying hey we have to go hang out with them again or I had a good time. Even if it was just as a friend you want to make your ex reflect and say these same things.

If you are ready to get down to work I would suggest that you get try this 6 tip proven method. Since it’s 100% guaranteed - you have nothing to lose!

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The First Date

Tuesday, October 13th, 2009

When you go on a date with someone there are specific things you should or should not do and certain ways you should conduct yourself. Of course you want the person to get to know you, so, first off, you oughtn’t attempt to be someone that you are not.

When you go out on a date you ought to look clean and dress nicely. This will show the other person, not only that you think about about your appearance, but that you also care about what they think about you. After all, If you don’t care about what the other person thinks, then you probably shouldn’t be going out on a date with them in the first place, should you?

This suggestion really depends on the person you are taking out. It applies more to a man dating a woman, obviously, but some women don’t like having doors opened for them either. You will have to play it by ear. I think that the best guidance I can offer, is that you should remember to open the car doors and all doors for that matter (except the washroom door) for your date, unless you are told or you sense otherwise.

A lot of younger women might say they wouldn’t judge a man by his door-opening behavior, but I think it does form a beneficial part of the overall picture she will be building up of you. However, if the woman you are going out with is an obvious feminist, then you had better let her open the doors for herself - just let her get on with it or it might trouble her. She might also want to pay for her own meal, but that’s not a bad thing is it?

Make sure that you punctual. Be there when you say you will be there to pick her up and be ready to pay for the entire date. It might not come to that, she may buy a drink or two, but you can’t rely on it, so slip a credit card in your wallet too. Better safe than sorry and you don’t want to have walk home., would you?

So, that brings us conveniently to the next point, which is, don’t take your date somewhere you cannot pay for because you never want to find yourself asking your date for a loan to cover the bill, unless you don’t aspire to see her again.

Another part of dating etiquette also relates to not making the other person feel as if they are at an interview. It is all too familiar for people on a date to ask too many questions because they want to get to know the other person quickly. However, how would you feel, if you were asked twenty questions between every course or drink? It is well-intentioned, but irritating. It is far better to have, say, five or six interesting, non-personal questions that you can discuss at more length.

If you push them too far, if you get too personal too quickly, you might frighten them off. Just try to generate a comfortable atmosphere by being considerate and yourself.

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Seniors and Dating

Monday, July 20th, 2009

A senior by definition is a person who is older than you or, more broadly, an older member of society. Dating, by definition refers to courtship between two people - which is usually romantic - who are either expecting or not expecting to get married.

So, ’senior dating’ refers to the romantic courtship between two persons who are considered older members of society, or the romantic courtship of two people where at least one partner is an older member of society. When referred to as ’senior’, this doesn’t have to mean that the person has to be above the age of maybe - 60 years of age. People of over the age of, for instance, 40 years are also considered ’seniors’, since people are thought to live ‘three score years and ten’ (70 years), half of which is 35.

Depending on which of the many senior dating services used (especially by means of online senior dating), the age group targeted may vary. However, generally - senior dating is for those who are above 40 years of age.

Senior dating gives seniors, who could be divorced, widowed or still single, a chance to meet people of a similar age bracket and to share ideas and interests or, if a deeper bond is found between the couple, a more meaningful relationship. This permits seniors to enjoy their life, just as they did when they were younger. Therefore, there are various senior dating services provided on the Internet.

In these senior dating services, which are obviously intended for seniors, there are few photos in the profiles - which gives those who have uploaded their photos an obvious advantage. Also, some of these senior dating services offer additional services such as anonymous email, instant messaging, chat rooms and forums.

When you make use of these online senior dating websites, you will be able to make new local friends, and chat with each other politely online, so that compatible partners can be found. Additionally, if you are meeting outside the online website, you should be certain that the meeting is held in a public place - especially if you are meeting one another for the very first time and do not know each other all that well.

A additional precaution you could take would be to inform someone you can rely on where you are going and with whom. However, if, for any reason, you begin to feel uneasy with the person you are with, just be polite and leave.

Although these safety measures might be general knowledge, it is necessary to repeat them here, because it is better to be safe than sorry. You would be well advised to stick to them as well. In this way, senior dating will be shown to be a successful and safe way of permitting those who are divorced, widowed or have children, to be able to reconstruct their lives and enjoy friendship with members of the opposite sex again.

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Dating Advice

Thursday, July 16th, 2009

Dating advice is abundant: it’s on the Internet, in magazines, books, newspapers and on the TV. Dating advice is so easy to give that an eight-year-old even wrote a book about it. (That child is intelligent and ought to be sought after by the girls, because while fundamental, all of his dating advice is true. If you have read the book, you would be forced to admit that that eight-year-old child does know what he is proposing (no pun intended): that is to keep everything straightforward. And that it in a nutshell when it comes to dating, keep things simple.

Leave your past in the past. It only holds you back. Anyone you get dating advice from will tell you that to have even one successful date, you need to dump all your baggage and start afresh. Do not ruin your chances by boring your new date with stories of your ex’s crimes against you. It is a just not on. Do not let old grievances spoil new chances.

‘Be yourself’ is probably the best dating advice possible. It’s true that people like to put their best foot forward, and impress their date, but if they aren’t their usual selves, not only will they feel uncomfortable, but their date will pick up on the uneasy vibes as well.

Not to expect too much (nor too little) is also good dating advice. If you expect too much from one date or from te person you are dating, it is highly likely that you will be discouraged by the results. After all, your date is only human too and first dates are generally at least slightly awkward.

A question that crops up time and time again is: who should pay? The general consensus of opinion in dating advice circles is that the one who invites, pays. But, others argue that it is always better to go 50/50 every time to avoid embarrassment. Furthermore, there is yet another school of dating advise though, that reasons that a man is not a gentleman” if he doesn’t offer to pick up the bill. The best thing to do in this scenario would be to settle for something that you and your date are both comfortable with.

Probably texting your date before your meeting is smart dating advise as it puts him or her at ease and allows you to discuss interests or hobbies in a much more informal way and less tense environment than your first date would be. That would allow you to use this as common ground when things get awkward (as they generally do on the first few dates unless there is an instant rapport) and get the conversation going again.

The most important bit of dating advice though, is to remember that no one date is a deal-breaker. No date is the end, so if one doesn’t work out, why worry, there will be others. And if they doesn’t work, there are plenty of other people to go out with.

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