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Advice On Asking Someone Out On A Date

Wednesday, May 5th, 2010

OK, no more hesitations, this is the moment you have been dreaming of and it’s up to you to make it reality. But, how can you get that dream date? Naturally, you have to start from the beginning and that means to ask the person you are interested in out. Well, how should you invite a person out? Do you have to be assertive? Do you have to be coy? Perhaps you need a few tips to ask someone out?

The following are simple but essential tips you can use when you find it hard inviting a person for a date. These tips are great when you want to invite out the person you fancy. Firstly, know the right reason or reasons for asking a person out. When you know your reason(s), the right words will probably come to you.

What if the person says no? Don’t take it to heart and certainly don’t expect it. Take it gracefully and maybe have a light-hearted, self-effacing joke at the ready. However, for some people, it might be worth practising the words you want to say. To this end, try to keep the reasons for the date foremost in your mind.

However, the person might say “yes” and then you should know where to go, otherwise it seems as if you have not put much thought into it. As far as you can, be ready with ideas. See to it that you know how to answer whenever the person asks you why you are asking her out. You do not have to flatter, but you have to make sure that you make the person feel good. In this way you can show how thoughtful you are. Never pressure a person to go out with you.

If you did, the result would most likely be a disaster. Furthermore, don’t try to make them tell you why the outcome is negative. Furthermore, never stand anyone up. This means that when you ask someone out, you ought to mean it and you should not leave her stranded. If the person says no, do not get annoyed about it. Just move on and do not treat that person badly. Having some Dutch courage is certainly not a good idea.

It may just put you in a worse position. You have to be naturally confident. The more, the better, but not on a first date. When you want to ask a person for a date, do not do it when she is with a circle of friends.

These are really useful tips and you ought to take note of them. They will definitely help you out when you want to go out with that special person.

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International And Inter-racial Dating

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

This piece of writing is about my experiences of international and inter-racial dating. It is purely an account of what I have witnessed and experienced myself over the course of my life so far, although at 55 years old, I am nearer the end of it than the beginning. It is my advice on dealing with an international or inter-racial relationship.

It all began at an early age when I was in infant school at seven. There was a Filipina girl in our class and I could not take my eyes off her, although I almost certainly did not know much about it then. We parted at eight when they moved closer to another school and I never saw her again.

My next meeting with a foreign girl, was the mademoiselle junior teacher at school and I was convinced that I would marry a French country girl when I grew up. That passed when the German assistant arrived.

When I was fourteen, I went on a school cruise to Leningrad and there was a party of exchange students going home to Sweden on the same ship. I went out with one of them for about a week and first noticed the problems that can come from international dating. There was a minor language barrier, but it was fun getting over that. The real problem came, because I had preconceived ideas of what Swedish girls were like, probably instilled in me after years of silly ‘Carry On’ films.

At sixteen, I went to Germany to work for the summer and I found it very easy to get on with the German girls, although they were shyer that I was expecting too. Also an attitude I owed to silly Health and Efficiency ’sex films’.

After finishing university, I moved to The Netherlands to live. It was the seventies and Dutch girls were great. However, I made friends with male British colleagues first and soon saw some of the issues that can come from an international relationship. Most of the men I knew were typical Brits and made totally no attempt to learn Dutch at all. Surprisingly, many Dutch people could not speak English either, particularly the parents.

This lead to a surprising quantity of tense moments in a week and that put a lot of pressure on my friends’ relationships. It is so easy to start name-calling when you are angry and it is the worst thing you can do. The Dutch girlfriend or her parents or friends would be called ‘a stupid cheese eater’ or something equally daft and the relationship was over or in trouble for days. I do not recall what the Dutch called us.

I promised myself there and then never to get serious about a foreign girl because the arguments were just too much. Food was never a problem. Culture was not much of a problem, although where I was in southern Netherlands, most people were Catholic and I am not. This did perplex some parents but not me. Travelling was always going to be the drawback. Do you live by her parents or yours? In particular when children start arriving. Most countries have stronger family ties than Britain.

Then, at 50, having never been married, I went to Thailand, where I met my wife-to-be. Asian culture is very different from British or even European society and it is a real shock to both parties. Anyway, five years into our relationship and we are still fine. I recollect the reasons I gave myself for not marrying abroad when in The Netherlands and I was incorrect, but not much.

If you are going to enter into an international or even inter-racial relationship, you had better learn how to control your temper. It is the most important advice you will ever get. Being understanding of other points of view is important too, but not getting angry is more important. Furthermore, you must try to learn something about your partner’s land, background and language, otherwise you cannot join in any discussion your partner may have with someone who does know a bit about it.

I have never seen religion be a problem ever, except in an argument. My wife is Buddhist and I am not. We talk about it, but there is never any tension. Food, again I have never seen a problem in this field. Clothing, again no problem in my life. If you get into an international or inter-racial relationship, keep your temper, do not shout, do not get angry and talk things out calmly.

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The First Date

Tuesday, October 13th, 2009
by Marion Rose Jones

When you go on a date with someone there are specific things you should or should not do and certain ways you should conduct yourself. Of course you want the person to get to know you, so, first off, you oughtn’t attempt to be someone that you are not.

When you go out on a date you ought to look clean and dress nicely. This will show the other person, not only that you think about about your appearance, but that you also care about what they think about you. After all, If you don’t care about what the other person thinks, then you probably shouldn’t be going out on a date with them in the first place, should you?

This suggestion really depends on the person you are taking out. It applies more to a man dating a woman, obviously, but some women don’t like having doors opened for them either. You will have to play it by ear. I think that the best guidance I can offer, is that you should remember to open the car doors and all doors for that matter (except the washroom door) for your date, unless you are told or you sense otherwise.

A lot of younger women might say they wouldn’t judge a man by his door-opening behavior, but I think it does form a beneficial part of the overall picture she will be building up of you. However, if the woman you are going out with is an obvious feminist, then you had better let her open the doors for herself - just let her get on with it or it might trouble her. She might also want to pay for her own meal, but that’s not a bad thing is it?

Make sure that you punctual. Be there when you say you will be there to pick her up and be ready to pay for the entire date. It might not come to that, she may buy a drink or two, but you can’t rely on it, so slip a credit card in your wallet too. Better safe than sorry and you don’t want to have walk home., would you?

So, that brings us conveniently to the next point, which is, don’t take your date somewhere you cannot pay for because you never want to find yourself asking your date for a loan to cover the bill, unless you don’t aspire to see her again.

Another part of dating etiquette also relates to not making the other person feel as if they are at an interview. It is all too familiar for people on a date to ask too many questions because they want to get to know the other person quickly. However, how would you feel, if you were asked twenty questions between every course or drink? It is well-intentioned, but irritating. It is far better to have, say, five or six interesting, non-personal questions that you can discuss at more length.

If you push them too far, if you get too personal too quickly, you might frighten them off. Just try to generate a comfortable atmosphere by being considerate and yourself.

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Are there Sexual Headaches?

Saturday, August 1st, 2009
by Bob Jones

Orgasm is supposed to be a pleasurable and positive activity for most people, however it can be painful for others who discover that it triggers coital headaches. For these people, sexual activity of any kind can result in coital headache attacks.

Technically, a headache, or cephalalgia, is a symptom of various conditions of the head and sometimes the neck too. They can be classified into two main categories: primary or idiopathic, and symptomatic, although there are other ways of classifying them too; for example by severity.

Put simply, primary headaches have a known or unknown cause, whereas symptomatic headaches are often the result of trauma. Primary headaches include: migraine, tension headaches, cluster headaches and coital headaches, amongst others.

Coital headaches, also called coital cephalalgia or sexual headaches, is a rare, but painful form of headache that starts in the nape of the neck during sexual intercourse, but before climax. It can occur in all conditions where climax is the expected result. The pain can move to behind the eyes and can then be even more severe. Typically the pain will last from a few minutes to an hour or so, but it has been known to last for days in extreme cases.

Men are three times more at risk to coital headaches than women and the age groups most at risk are those between 20 and 25 and 30 and 44. Nobody really understands why this should be. Coital headaches afflict about one percent of the population, although this figure could be a lot higher due to people being embarrassed to talk about it.

Coital headaches are benign, meaning that they have no long-term ill effects, as far as we know. It seems that people taking sexual stimulants, like Viagara, are about 10% more at risk to a bout of coital headache. In fact, besides the obvious, temporary pain, the worst effects of coital headaches are varying levels of dizziness, confusion and stiffness of neck.

However, it is still worth going to a doctor though, especially in the beginning, just to rule out the more severe causes of headaches, such as brain tumours and blood clots. However, the doctor can do rather little to help by way of treatment. He could suggest a complete abstention from any kind of sexual practice for a period ranging from days to weeks or he may suggest trying taking medication some time before sexual foreplay commences.

Some of the headache medications that can be used are indomethacin, imitrex, zomig and propranolol, although if the headaches persist, your doctor may prescribe daily preventive medication. People suffering from frequent coital headaches may obtain a positive response to migraine preventive medications, such as beta blockers or verapamil. Non-steroidal anti inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS) such as ibuprofen may similarly be helpful. Coital headaches and migraines are also more likely to occur if the person is in poor physical health.

Nevertheless, the cure for coital headaches for a lot of people can be as simple as bringing your weight up or down to the normal weight for your size. Coital headaches can also be treated in some sufferers by an increased level of exercise, although this could bring on exertion headaches in some people.

The good news is though that most headaches related to sex are not serious in nature. In deed, various studies actually suggest that orgasm can relieve headaches and migraine in some cases. This implies that for some adults, refusing sex may actually be the reason that prevents headache treatment.

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Straight Marriages - Gay Unions

Thursday, July 9th, 2009
by Barry Jones

The debate about gay marriages has been a very hot political subject for many years and because it is such a hot topic, the number of places that have come out publicly either for or against the topic is not surprising. While there are few states that allow gay or same-sex marriage, there are a few that are more liberal, affording almost equal rights. Massachusetts is currently the only state in the United States that allows same-sex marriages. The state of Rhode Island is generous enough to recognize as a legal marriage any same-sex marriage that is carried out in Massachusetts, which is considered a major victory by many same-sex supporters.

Elections of recent years have seen this as a very hot topic and with the White House stating publicly that marriage can only be between a man and a woman, not same-sexes, many states have been very slow to allow same-sex marriages. However, a few states have allowed same-sex civil unions, which are very much like marriage.

Those states are, in alphabetical order: California, Connecticut, Hawaii, Maine, New Jersey, and Vermont. The District of Columbia also recognizes same-sex unions and the Governor of New Hampshire has promised openly that he will soon sign a bill permitting same-sex unions. This is a major victory for the supporters of the movement.

While many states have not given the green light to the topic of same-sex marriage, there are states which are sitting around discussing the subject. Many couples who are struggling for their rights have argued that there is just no difference in the manner they run their households compared with their heterosexual counterparts. They have also stated that while they may be with a partner who is the same sex as them, they do still love their partner and ought to have the legal right to marry them too.

This has always been a hot issue, and probably will continue to be a hot topic for many years in the future. While the topic rages within the states and at the national level, it will more than likely be quite a long time before the gay and lesbian rights groups can truly declare a triumph for their cause. Nevertheless, there is some solace to be taken in the small victories as they occur, and another Governor of a state being willing to permit a civil gay union is at least a step in the direction of victory.

However, the fact is that the actions of the individual states usually reflect the opinions of the President. With a President in office who is a staunch opponent of same-sex marriage as well as civil union, it is unlikely to allow much room for many more victories until a more accommodating, or rather liberal, President is in the White House. Only time will tell what President Obama’s views are.

After the bill has passed through all the channels of state, it will go into effect as early as the next year for the New Hampshire residents, who have been waiting patiently. Each state that gives this right to its residents opens the door to more states to become more tolerant. Finally, this paves the way for America to join the bulk of Europe in sanctioning the legal inequalities of straight and gay couples nationwide.

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Straight Marriages - Gay Unions

Monday, July 6th, 2009
by Barry Jones

The debate on gay marriages has been a very hot political subject for many years and because it is such a hot topic, the number of places that have come out publicly either for or against the subject is not surprising. While there are few states that allow gay or same-sex marriage, there are some that are more liberal, affording almost equal rights. Massachusetts is currently the only state in the United States that allows same-sex marriages. The state of Rhode Island is generous enough to recognize as legal, any same-sex marriage that is performed in Massachusetts, which is a major victory according to many same-sex supporters.

The elections of recent years have seen this as a very hot topic and with the White House stressing openly that marriage can only involve a man and a woman, not same-sexes, many states have been very reluctant to allow same-sex marriages. However, a few states have sanctioned same-sex civil unions, which are very similar to marriage.

Those states are, in alphabetical order: California, Connecticut, Hawaii, Maine, New Jersey, and Vermont. The District of Columbia also allows same-sex unions and the Governor of New Hampshire has stated openly that he will soon sign a bill permitting same-sex unions. This is a major advance for the supporters of the movement.

While many states have not given the green light on the subject of same-sex marriage, there are states which are sitting around discussing the issue. Many couples who are fighting for their rights have argued that there is just no difference in the way they run their households compared with their heterosexual counterparts. They have also stated that while they may be with a partner who is the same sex as them, they do still love their partner and ought to have the legal right to marry them too.

This has always been a contentious topic, and likely will continue to be a hot subject for many years to come. With the issues raging within the states and at the national level, it will probably be a very long time before the gay and lesbian rights groups are able to truly declare a victory for their cause. Nevertheless, there is some solace to be taken in the small triumphs as they occur, and another Governor of a state being willing to sanction a civil union is at least a move in the direction towards victory.

However, the fact remains that the views of the individual states usually reflect the views of the President. With a President in office who is a strict opponent of same-sex marriage and civil union, it is unlikely to allow much room for many victories until a more accommodating, or rather liberal, President is in the White House. Only time will tell what President Obama’s views are.

Once the bill passes through all the channels of office, it goes into effect as early as the next year for the New Hampshire residents, who have been waiting patiently. With each state that gives this right to its residents, it opens the doors to more states to start becoming more tolerant of all its inhabitants. Finally, this is paving the way for America to join the bulk of Europe in recognizing the legal inequalities of straight and gay couples nationwide.

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advice on Asking Someone Out on a Date

Thursday, May 28th, 2009
by Owen Jones

No more procrastinating, this is the moment you have been waiting for and only you can make it reality. But, how can you have that dream date? Naturally, you have to start from the beginning and that means to ask the person you are interested in out on a date. Well, how should you invite a person out? Do you need to be assertive? Do you need to be coy? Perhaps you could do with a few tips to ask someone out?

The following are simple but essential tips you can use when you find it hard asking a person out on a date. These tips are great when you want to invite out the person you fancy. Firstly, know the right reason or reasons for asking a person out. When you know your reason(s), the right words will surely come to you.

What if the person says no? Well, don’t take a refusal to heart and definitely don’t expect it. Take it gracefully and maybe even have a light-hearted, self-effacing joke at the ready. However, for some people, it might be worth practising the words you want to use. To achieve this, try to keep the reasons for the date foremost in your mind.

However, the person might say “yes” and then you ought to have ideas about where to go, otherwise it looks as if you have not given it much thought. As much as possible, be ready with some ideas. See to it that you have an answer, if the person asks you why you are asking her out. You do not have to over-flatter, but you have to make sure that you make the person feel good. In this way, you can show how thoughtful you are, but never pressure anyone to go out with you.

If you did, the result would almost certainly be unpleasant. And don’t pressure anyone to tell you why the answer is no. Furthermore, never stand someone up. This means that when you ask a person out, you should mean it and you do not leave her waiting for nothing. If the person says no, do not get angry about it. You just have to move on and not treat that person badly. Having some beer to boost your confidence is definitely not a good idea.

It may just put you in an even worse situation. You have to be confident naturally. The more, the better, but not on a first date. If you want to invite a person out for a date, don’t do it when she is with a group of friends.

These are really useful tips and you really ought to take note of them. They will definitely help you out if you want to go out with your special person.

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